Lately, I’ve been hearing all of the rave “gentle parenting” this, “gentle parenting” that. What is gentle parenting? Why does everyone seem to be talking about it, and why does it seem be trending?
I’m here to answer all of your gentle parenting questions.
WHAT IS GENTLE PARENTING
Gentle parenting or previously known as “Authoritative” parenting, is not new. The grandparent Authoritative parenting is a psychology majors-best friend. In the four parenting group types, the newly dubbed gentle parenting still holds the same theme, meaning and message – TREAT YOUR CHILDREN WITH RESPECT, DIGNITY AND LOVE. Sounds simple? It is.
Authoritative/Gentle parenting is not different. This is invariably linked to an ideal style of parenting. This approach follows these beliefs:
– Clear boundaries and direction for your children
– You think your kids deserve an explanation
– Communicate frequently and to your child’s understanding (Does not mean baby/kid talk)
– Set expectations
WHY IS EVERYONE TALKING ABOUT IT?
Like anything associated with parenting is linked to it, it’s suddenly a “Hot Topic”. We’ve seen the parents and the videos talking about gentle parenting as if it’s a new invention. Now, as we live in a world where parents (like myself) are constantly trying to change and upgrade the past, we are charged with the rift of people believing, “well, I turned out okay.”
The “I turned out okay” group consists of adults who believe just because they’ve been beaten, punished, mistreated as a child. Those habits have not transitioned into adulthood AND that they are somehow “okay” Survey says that is a lie. We are breaking generational curses, treating our littles with the respect they deserve and are self-regulating ourselves. Because, after all, it’s called PARENTING, not KIDDING for a reason.
SO, HOW DO I GENTLE PARENT?
What you want is:
If you are pondering this question, you are probably already doing gentle parenting (you would know if you weren’t) like the lists of beliefs for authoritative/gentle parenting listed above. This style of parenting is more about the adults receiving and responding of every single situation.
– A child that feels heard understood, and accepted
– Equality (children can be given choices)
– Boundaries: Every person should understand that people are entitled to their space, including kids.
– Open dialogue: Nothing is more damaging to a child than feeling brushed off, unheard, or having some speak for them. Giving your kid the proper tools allow them to have the confidence to talk to you openly (yes, that means getting your feelings hurt sometimes)